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in recent years - in part thanks to Mail & Female - a lot has changed in our thinking about masturbation. Masturbation is no longer a taboo, and that can only be a good thing. By exploring your own body, you learn how it works, and that in turn contributes to having better sex. After all, if you know what gets you hot, your sexual self-confidence grows, and that will give sex with your partner more depth.


Sex drive
Self-gratification is the way to go. Discover yourself and fantasize about things and situations that turn you on, find your sensitive places and experiment with the tempo with which you want to be touched, stroked or penetrated. Learn to give yourself the maximum pleasure.
But masturbation is about more than a fantastic orgasm. By experimenting with yourself you can also develop your inner sex drive. However good your practical techniques are, however exciting your fantasies, and however fantastic your orgasms, you can always push back your boundaries at least a bit further. Sexual energy actually has no limits. In doing sexy things with yourself you can stimulate your sex drive and get your energy flowing in a pleasant and relaxed manner.

Keeping the arousal going
For instance, by a simple exercise you can move from just having orgasms to attaining an orgasmic state. You do this by restraining the urge to climax - in other words, by stopping before the excitement becomes too great. Holding on to the excitement gives an intensity to your sexual feelings that leads to more control over and deeper experience of your orgasms. In this same manner men can learn how to keep their erection up longer and come much more intensively. Women learn to integrate sexual excitement into their system faster and more completely. In other words, they become more sexual beings.

Active role
Another way of working by yourself on the intensity of your orgasms is by exercising your PC muscle. That’s a must for women and men!
The PC muscle (pubococcygeus muscle) lies between your genitals and anus. You can feel it around the anus, and as you try to stop the flow while you are urinating. It is the most important muscle of the lower pelvic region, regulating the opening and closing of the uterus, the semen ducts, the vagina and the anus. You can train this muscle by repeating simple tensing and relaxing exercises (for women perhaps with the aid of special training tools). With men, these exercises promote the blood supply to the penis. This increases their capacity for erection and promotes pleasure.
Women can learn to make sucking and milking movements with their vaginal muscles. This not only increases the intensity of their own pleasure, but also lets them take a more active role in intercourse. You can find good methods of exercising, we recommend you check out our section on G-spot vibrators.

Emotions
Breathing plays an important role in elevating your sexual energy. As you play with yourself, try to feel your breathing all the way to your genitals, and then to breath all the way out from there too. You will discover that by doing this, your sexual sensations will be spread more widely throughout your body. Your heart and genitals establish a connection, and in this way allow your orgasm to literally go to your head... That can set off a great wave of emotions for you. You are here touching on the essence of sex: contact with your inner, divine self.

Loving and pampering yourself
Bringing yourself to a climax can be much more than mere ‘self-gratification’. Caressing your own body is all about self-love and transforming sexual energy into love energy. Love is the basis of everything, and that is true for sex with yourself too. Enjoy the sensation of your own nakedness, or cloth yourself in exquisite lingerie. Create a warm, erotic environment with odors, oils and candles. Surround yourself with titillating literature, films that get you aroused, your favorite vibrator, dildos or other toys. Pamper yourself with the most beautiful and best, and begin a voyage of discovery into yourself...