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In one of our latest polls we asked: "My partner should..."
60 % out of more then 2000 people wanted more lucking and sucking!
We still have a lot of fun together, only 6 % would like tot see her/his partner laughing more.
Breakfast at bed (5 %) and massages (12%) - thats pretty okay. But oral sex? 60%!!

We, the women of Mail & Female, decided to do something about that. We have our won ideas aubout whats going on and love to give some advice!
If you want to add up your opinion, please give your reaction on our forum!

Reasons we think people don’t receive enough oral sex:
1. Too tired to lick or suck
2. Lack of experience
3. Afraid to be less good in it then your previous lovers/rivals
4. Some people think it's a bit submissive
5. It is hard to read your partners signals
6. The smell and taste
7. You find it difficult to to surrender

See if you recognize any of these reasons:
1* If you are too tired to ‘do it’ (have intercourse) it usually also means you are too tired to ‘give it’ . Oral sex is great foreplay however it often seems like too much work when you don’t have energy. When you start to choose fatigue over your sexdrive be aware that sex makes you happier en more energetic! It's absolutely worth the effort!
2* If you have never looked closely at a pussy or examined a cock how would you know where to lick, suck and touch. We are not born knowing how to give oral sex, but thankfully we can learn. Unfortunately it can be a bit akward to ask your partner about oral sex, but most of the time they just love to answer! It is always better before you are in the middle of it to find a good, comfortable moment to ask for your partners wishes.
3* Sometimes thinking about your partners sexual past can intimidate a person out of giving oral sex. Unfairly, people often compare their own oral sex abilities to that of previous lovers/partners. It is true that most people have a past, but, the past is past and it is always best to leave it where it belongs.
4* ‘going down’ expresses not only the physical act of licking or sucking someone but it also implies a mental state too. For many women giving a blow job feels like a submissive position: you are literally servicing (serving) your partner. Keep in mind that while you may be doing something for your partner you also control their pleasure through your actions. And this is a very powerful position indeed.
5*There is something about oral sex that requires more concentration than intercourse. The one giving needs to focus on the right spot, the right rhythm, and the right signals (moans, sighs and hardness/wetness). The receiver needs to ‘direct’ the giver to the right spot but carefully. You do not want your partner to feel they are not doing a good job Moaning and moving around often implies your partner really enjoys what you are doing and their level of sexual excitement is growing; or not. Moaning and moving around can also mean they want you to move your tongue, lick closer to the head of the cock or put a finger in their pussy. Signals are important.
6*Taste and smell are common excuses. With the right hygiene—showering before sex, being aware of your bodies monthly cycle and opening your mind to the sexually arousing qualities of body smells, oral sex can be more exciting than any other form of sex.
7* Total surrender and having no control is difficult, especially for women. We have not been raised to be selfish and focus on our own enjoyment. It's a challenge to learn to focus on your own desires, it will help you in life!
 
 Tips for better licking and sucking:

*Once you start something stick with it a while. Too many position changes too quickly makes your sweetheart people loose the ‘feeling’ .
*Do not ignore your own excitement; it's very exciting to see your partners arousal. You can masturbate slowly while you give your partner oral pleasure, and have your orgasm simultaneously!


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